Monday, February 11, 2013

MeAndBaby Bits

  • The twins have been in daycare for 6 weeks.  And they love it.  And I love that they love it.  On day 2, the Dynamo pooped ON THE POTTY at school.  That happened before any pee on the potty took place and before any real talk of potty training at home took place.  I have had little potty chairs in our bathrooms for some time and both boys have sat on them in their clothes but really that had been it.  They both have now randomly pooped and peed on the potty at school and the Dynamo has now pooped and peed in his little potty at home.  This was a nice early bonus of daycare as I did not expect to be doing any potty training until at least Spring.
  • My mom is definitely moving.  And it's happening this weekend.  I'm sad that the boys are losing time with their Grandma but happy for my mom.  That's all I can say about this right now.
  • Work still sucks.  As in really sucks.  The after-hours rotation (and by after hours I mean in-the-middle-of-the-night for several hours) schedule has picked up as we have lost people in our department.  There is now the potential for some after hours event to take place for me every 3 to 4 weeks.  The anxiety I feel over this is extreme.  I've talked to my supervisor and the head of our department since this was not explained to me when I started employment.  Those chats have not gotten me too far. I have been actively looking for something new.  I think this will likely get worse before it gets better.  I'm trying to control the stress I am feeling from this worry so it doesn't affect the boys.
  • The boys are still doing well with speech therapy.  They are in session two times per week with their therapist now going to their daycare. 
  • One of the infant teachers at daycare commented how the boys look like me.  I told her I don't often hear that - I usually hear that one does and one does not (see this post).  She asked if Sweet Potato looks like his dad.  Instead of just saying yes which is sort of true since he has the characteristics of the donor and sort of not true since I do not consider the donor their dad, I told her and anyone else in earshot how I used an anonymous donor but Sweet Potato did have the same traits as the donor and so well, yes, the answer to her question was yes.  And then I apologized for over-sharing when, in fact, I'm not sorry but want them to know the boys' story as I am open about it.  It was slightly awkward as I was rambling on like I am here.  The teacher was great about it and said something like they hear a lot of stories and sharing was fine with them.  Or something. 
  • Toddlerhood is hard.  Age almost two-and-a-half is either more difficult than infanthood or I suppressed that past time in our lives and just don't remember it.  There are pockets of easier times like when the boys play nicely together and I can step out of the room but, as a whole, meeting both of their needs (sometimes at the same time) is overwhelming.  I'm trying to let other things go more - like the need to make sure the house is picked up all the time - in favor of spending quality, happy time with my kids. Along with that, I need and want more support.  I'm not really a joiner but I've been looking around a bit online for SMC and other single parent groups.  I can't seem to find anything local that appears to be current. 


  1. Great on the unplanned potty training!
    Pitty we don't live just a little bit closer...

  2. I am trying not to think of the toddler years yet. I feel like I just survived their newborn times. :) I don't remember/know where you live, but I don't think it's near me as you have snow. I am hesitant about reaching out to the local MoMs groups because they will likely all have fathers in the picture. Are you subscribed the SMCmultiples list serve? I am going to reach out there to see if I can find anyone local myself once the babies can't be out an about. Good luck with potty training and work/finding a new job!

  3. Soon after my M was born I was talking with a colleague about the pros and cons of various types of child care. He said that he loved his kids' daycare because the teachers there taught them manners and potty training. At the time I was a little taken aback, but now that I am in the thick of it, I totally agree. My little M says please and thank you and puts things away and yes, is even starting to ask to take her diaper off so she can use the potty. I love it. I wonder how long it will last, but for as long as it does, I love it. I hope your boys continue doing great in day care!

    So sorry about the work problems and how hard raising toddler twins is. I think of you often and with deep, deep admiration. One can be exhausting. Two, OMG.

    Babies are hard work to take care of, but that's all you have to do, take care of them. Toddlers are harder because you have to parent. I constantly find myself noticing that M is testing the edge of the envelope, and in that particular moment I may not really care but I HAVE to say something so that I am being consistent. I find that hard, and exhausting. With two, you must be doing it three times as often.

  4. Wouldn't it be wonderful if daycare does all the potty training for you?!? Little jealous there.


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