I'm sure we've all done it - broken up with a blogger. You find someone online, a connection is made, you add them to your reader and can't wait to read their next post. You comment on their posts often sharing your excitement over their good news or offering support if the news isn't so good. You're there with an ear, some advice and how you handled the same thing they are going through or might handle it if you haven't been in their shoes before. You do this for a long time, years maybe, and then realize your online friend never comments on your posts. In fact, you're pretty sure they never even read your blog.
At what point do you walk away?
Maybe you've added a comment and asked the writer a question. Something quick for her to answer - an explanation of an abbreviation from her post for example. And she doesn't add another comment. And she writes a new post and never answers your question there either. Eh - no big deal. An oversight.
Then there's the blogger who invites comments or emails that require her to respond. Perhaps she talks about this awesome recipe and tells her readers to leave a comment if they'd like her to email it to them. And you do. And she doesn't. I guess she didn't mean you. She meant her other followers.
Do you stop reading then?
When I was in the thick of TTC, I followed a blogger who was years ahead of me with mostly heartache. Like many of us, she was hit with disappointment and challenges left and right. I followed her through some life changes like a move across the country, supported her when she had unfavorable comments on a post, emailed (and was granted) a password request when she went private. And then somewhere between my second and third miscarriage, I unsubscribed. It felt like a completely one-sided relationship. Not once did she comment on a post of mine. When I needed it most, not one 'thinking of you' from her. It shouldn't matter. I was fortunate enough to have so many online friends who did comment. But the next update from her in my reader? It stung a little bit.
Like many relationships where I feel slighted, I look to myself. Am I there for my readers like I should be? Am I doing enough? There are many times when I comment in my head when I read a post but don't take the time to type it. I tell myself I'll do it later. And then I don't. I feel guilty about that. But to never comment? After months or years of support given to me? No, I wouldn't do that.