I know I should not complain about my mother. Besides watching the twins for me three days per week (at about 1/3 the cost of daycare), my mom does a lot for me around the house and I am very grateful.
HOWEVER, she also stirs up my anxiety and frustrates me.
Example: After Sweet Potato had his blood test, the pediatrician called me about the results and recommended I take him to an allergist. Honestly, I was happy to go. I wanted answers from a specialist. My mother bombarded me with questions about why he was going to an allergist, thought the pediatrician was passing the buck, why didn’t he see the allergist first then, etc. Okay, Grandma? Not Helping. When she doesn’t understand things, she gets defensive and fires off questions without thinking (I think). She doesn’t realize that the day I find out my kid has to have an EpiPen with him at all times, I really don’t need to be stirred up with potential conflict.
What’s even more frustrating is I don’t think she gets the seriousness of the allergy situation. When I got the blood test results before Sweet Potato met with the allergist, they said he was also allergic to soybean. Turns out he is not and that is a typical result from the blood test for those with an egg allergy. The allergist retested him. In the nine days between the time of the blood test results and the visit to the allergist, I, of course, restricted all things with soybean including animal crackers (not that either kid is a big fan of them, but I am). I had purchased a large container from BJs and put a post-it note on them “No Sweet Potato”. Besides soybean, it also says on the label in bold print: made in a bakery that uses nuts.
So yesterday I gave the container to my mom to take home. I didn’t want them in the house. She emails me this morning: “Tell me again why I'm eating too many animal crackers? The only thing I see that used to be a problem for [Sweet Potato] is the soy. I don't see any egg.” Grrrrr. Let’s just say it’s a good thing this was in an email. So I wrote her back and tried to make it fun and said to look again. She did find the part about the nuts. And hopefully she will learn something from this. Because as the person who is with my kids the most after me, she needs to know how to read labels.
I know I need to chill out. And I will try. But geez!
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